I was introduced to bow hunting a few years ago and while I have not taken down a Bull Elk (YET) I have fallen in love with everything that encompasses bow hunting.
There is something stealth and romantic about it, something I almost can not explain. As they say, there are more hunting stories than there are stars in the sky. Maybe it’s because it connects me to our roots, to what our ancestors did for 1000's years, or maybe it’s because it just seems to make sense. From the fact that I use yogic breathing when I drawback to hold steady, to finding myself in the quiet of the forest, to being so close with the animals they have no idea I am there, to knowing I can provide for myself and family. It’s like my own version of an enchanted forest. It’s the first place I have EVER found that I can completely quiet my racing mind. It was a gift given to me I will always cherish.
As I sat last year during the rut, I encountered what I will call a National Geographic moment. I watched and heard the clash of two Bucks fighting, there was no other noise besides their antlers getting entangled in one another. The smaller buck trying over and over again fighting for his place in line, NEVER GIVEN UP. Eventually, he was pushed off by the bigger, older, stronger buck, who was simply fighting to keep his species going. It just wasn’t the little guys year yet.
This is where jealousy roots from, the desire to survive, but mannnnn does it cause problems…
“Jealousy can undermine self-esteem, making a person feel "hurt, threatened, broken-hearted, upset, insecure, betrayed, rejected, angry, possessive, envious, unhappy, confused, frustrated, lonely, depressed, resentful, scared, and paranoid" (Buss, 2000). Jealousy motivates conflict with partners, fights with rivals, and in some cases extreme violence. Despite the extensive suffering it creates, it served our ancestors well in the competitive currency of reproduction. Non-jealous men risked being cuckolded and spending a life devoted to nurturing a rival's children. Non-jealous women risked the diversion or loss of a partner's commitment to a female rival. Jealousy evolved to serve a variety of functions, including deterring a mate from straying, backing off interested rivals, and perhaps even communicating commitment to a partner (Buss, 2000). These competitive functions have come at the cost of conflict. (2000)
These two bucks were not fighting because one had a different political view, a bigger home, or deeper pockets. They know no differences. They were fighting to pass on their genes, and the one with the best chance of survival well he won. This is where we all start from, the difference is humans we know better, but we can not ignore our roots.
As I learn more about why and how we function I once again return to the Garden of Eden, to mother nature, to understand why we do what we do and as always she once again teaches us a lesson.
The elk are limited on their conscious ability, the only drive and goals they know are to survive and reproduce, we on the other hand do not have these limitations. We have a conscious mind, we have been given the seeds of greatness, we are here to do more than simply reproduce. Yet, this primal, unconscious, misunderstood drive can be the root of many problems and the greatest one, jealously.
To me the best question we can ask ourselves to reframe primal jealously is simply...
What is my purpose, what will I fight to the death for?
Your passion, your lives work that is how we reframe and remove . You focus on your God given gifts and help each other thrive. Jealously thrives on feeling inadequate as if you can not give anything to your species. Thriving on the BS of I am not good enough. It’s time to rewrite that story and show the world your own unique, divine gifts, your special skills. Time to drop the negative feeling of jealousy.
It is your time and living your potential only helps those around you. Be a leader not a victim.
The thing is without understanding where jealous stems from we just keep getting in our way, we are misunderstood stood, we are misdirected, we are fighting each other all year, creating conflict after conflict. We are not fighting for humankind, but to put each other down, to cause more hurt and pain. Having a shared fate also shows better overall wellbeing, so we are better together, and truly we all have the same fate…
When are we going to get this? Haven’t we had enough?
Elk do not run around destroying each other's homes, habitats and lives.
They are actually in it together.
The truth is the biggest, baddest, Mother**** hang out up top, in peace, conserving their energy They are saving their energy for their lives purpose, for when their time comes to give back, use their gifts of strength and power and I don’t blame them because..
Up there they are closer to the stars.